This is it – I am officially 26! I can’t believe how quickly time goes as I still remember my 18 birthday or when I was 22 and moved to Manchester. Every year brought me something new and I thought I really want to share that. Apologies it is not a hair post but I hope this allows to me know me better.
What a journey I had with my health – especially in the last few years. When I moved to UK 7 years ago my diet was Dominos, full fat lattes with caramel syrup and massive cheesecake (not a small one, huge for like 6 people, I ate in one go). Yes, I did put weight but I loved food too much. Did I exercise? If you count dancing until 2am then probably yes. However, since I moved to Manchester, over 3 years ago, my digestion system was slowly shutting down. My skin was horrible, I felt like I was missing that healthy glow. The last two years I educated myself A LOT about food and I had to eliminate some food groups. I realised I need to make serious changes to feel better, which included being a lot more active (I enjoy that very much) and listening to my body. I could say I eat very well about 85% of the time (mostly plant-based diet with occasional fish and I haven’t had alcohol for over a year) and I exercise 4 times a week (oh and running around the lab is good exercise!). One thing I learned in 25 years – be gentle to your body, nourish and listen.
If I could get every single pound I spend in H&M or Primark on clothes that I wore only once or s
hrank with my new washing skills I could probably be a millionaire. I really wish I started saving at a lot younger age. The last few years I really changed my opinion about shopping and money. Every month after payday during my first year of PhD I would run to the Zara or TKmaxx to buy something just because I wanted to buy. Right now, I have a strict weekly budget, saving budget and I only buy something that I wanted for a while. I always bring my own lunch to work as it really allows to save more. For example, I managed to purchase Stuart Weitzmann over-knee boots that I kept lusting over for more than a year a(not bad for PhD student?!). I want to feel financially secure when I finish my PhD and this is the best feeling. One thing I learned in 25 years – start saving now and think three times whether that jacket or pair of shoes is something you really want and need.
Work hard. Work really really hard. I don’t think I would ever got into PhD if I haven’t done summer placement and continued working in that lab during my finals. I remember I would still run ELISAS at 11pm until I would be happy. I would wake up at 8am to revise up until 10pm. Yes, I did burn myself but it all payed off. However, I really wish I was more creative and invested my free time into self -developing. I am so glad that I have been blogging for the last year as it thought me A LOT . I wish I have done something like this earlier, but I am happy I am doing this now. One thing I learned in 25 years – work hard but use your free time to do something you enjoy and allows you to grow.
I was looking for love and Mr.Perfect for a really long time. Single life was fun but something was missing inside. If could speak with younger myself I would shake myself first and then say ‘Stop waisting your time on someone who constantly finds excuses not to be with you’. All that worrying and constant over analysing every single text message with my besties, what a waste of time! Trust me, when someone cares for you and wants to be with you, there is no excuses or explanations. That person drives 300 miles just to have breakfast with you or does his best to move his job to be closer and live with you. Two years and hopefully many more to come I count myself very lucky as I have a wonderful person next to me. One thing I learned in 25 years – don’t waste your time on someone who constantly finds reasons not to be with you. Love yourself, get busy and true love will come.
Even though I said work hard I still believe it is important to have time off. When I started my PhD I was very stressed in case something went wrong. When my family visited in my second year I was grumpy because some of my experiments were not working. I wish I shut that stress away and enjoyed real conversations, instead of complaining and moaning. Now I really try to switch off my stress levels, worries and enjoy the moment I have with my family and my partner. It is my safe place and it is my priority. I want to remember those beautiful moments of us being happy, instead of me worrying and complaining. One thing I learned in 25 years – get your priorities first, work and emails can wait, but be present and enjoy the moment.
I believe every year we learn more and we grow as a person. I am still the same yet a lot different to that girl that moved to Manchester at 22 do to PhD. I have big goals for this year and I truly hope I can accomplish them. Oh and I almost forgot…
One thing I learned in 25 years is that hair follicle is extremely complicated and that we really need to love our hair more.
What life lessons have you learned? Please share with me!
Have a wonderful day xx
I am Laura, 26 Lithuanian living in Manchester. I spend my days in the lab working on hair follicles and in the evening I share my love about hair cosmetics and how to have beautiful hair!